The Crucial List of Punishment for Teenagers to Avoid .

The Crucial List of Punishment for Teenagers to Avoid

When your child enters the teenage phase, your parenting also reaches a new parenting stage where discipline and rules should alter too. First of all, this needs to be said clearly and outloud that Physical Punishments and Beatings shouldn’t be a part of your Parenting. Avoid the term ‘punishment’ too in front of the child or teenagers- as it can make them feel inferior, unloved and alone. When your child enters the Teenage Phase you should allow some extra privacy and independence to them from before.

 

But this can be stated with utmost confidence that there would be times when your teenager would make a blunder or get into trouble. Some of these circumstances would arrive from the foolishness of your Teens but you need to handle them with composure and controlled anger outbursts. It’s very necessary to always look them in the eye and point out what they did wrong and why it’s wrong.

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Briefly Explained List of Punishments to be abandoned by Parents

Over the past decade, there have been multiple revelations where Parents had given some unimaginable punishments to their children which had left a negative impact. There are several Punishments that need to be avoided for children and teenagers. Most of them involve physical abuse and are too degrading for them to contemplate. Here some of these punishments are listed that you have to avoid for your teenager’s long-term well-being and their mental perception of Parents.

 

  1. Avoid Abusing Object Use- Although it’s quite shocking, many parents use belts and sticks to hit their teenage children. You need to understand that the use of such punishment is going to make your teenager emotionally distant from you and be highly afraid too. Using such objects can also bring upon scary wounds that can directly impact their mental and physical health. Such treatment of your Teenagers is also Illegal according to Federal Government Laws and you should completely refrain from it. You need to understand that such physically abusive punishments won’t bring the teenage change that you desire to bring with immediate effect.

 

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  1. Locking them up- Although many parents have disgracefully used such punishments, you shouldn’t be among them. Do not confuse this with the ‘Grounding Punishment’, it’s quite different. When you are locking them up in a small room, it’s similar to the Jail Conviction of a Criminal. Always keep this in mind that they are children and are still learning the ways of civil life, well some adults are too. When they are alone in a dark room it becomes a traumatizing experience for them from which they sometimes get a lifelong mental scar. As the parents, who are most loved by the child, inflict this trauma, it’s very common for these children to gain panic attacks, trust issues, and anxiety.

 

  1. Limiting their Food- This is highly disgusting, but some parents have done this in the past with an ill state of mind. If you think about it, this sort of punishment might have been given to slaves as a form of torture in primeval times. You just cannot do this to your child. But yes, you can cut down upon their treats like candies, chocolates, and snacks but do not hamper their daily food requirements. This will make them fall sick, damage their immunity system and even mess with their growth. Do not make them starve, instead, you can increase the quantity of food that the child usually doesn’t like much.

 

  1. Removing Doors and Shaming- Some Parents get the actual Door to the kid’s room removed. They even write signs or posters around the house and especially in the teen’s room to make them feel constantly ashamed and mourn their act. Although this punishment isn’t that harmful, you should still avoid it as it doesn’t bring any positive change in teenagers. Removing their Door would mean they will get 0% privacy and teenagers value privacy more than anything else. Scolding them, and shouting at them is rather fine but the shaming signs around the house act as constant reminders of their mistake and they would have a hard time moving on. You shouldn’t make them feel underconfident and depressed all the time with such punishments.

 

  1. Damaging their Belongings- This is rather a very common punishment running on rageful outbursts. These punishments are only for a few seconds but the consequences are major. There have been incidents where people have used their licensed guns on their teen child’s belongings. That seems unimaginable and a lunatic act, but it has happened before. Parents have completely destroyed the mobile phones, laptops, and many such important belongings of their teenage children. Such rageful acts in front of them will make them feel isolated, tortured and even depressed. Their belongings and materialistic objects they love might have to be bought again and that will increase the parent’s anger issues.

 

  1. Embarrassing them in Public- Some parents have really crossed boundaries with this type of punishment. Parents have made their Teen walk around in embarrassing T-Shirts and Clothes. Some Parents have made their Teens even wear clothes of the opposite gender and go out, which can be a disastrous experience for the teenagers. Some Teenagers have been made to go bald by cutting off all their hair and even walking around with dog poop on them. Seems disgusting right?, just avoid these sorts of punishments with your Teenagers.

Conclusion

Punishments and Abuse is not always effective approach to changing the behavior of your teenagers. Always make a strong effort in explaining to them why something they did is wrong and a terrible mistake. Parents sometimes just want to run their authority and not provide an explanation, it often leaves their teens in confusion. Parents often think their child has no understanding between right and wrong, but that isn’t really true.

 

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